Comments on: This Kidlet

By: sqpeggy

sqpeggy — Thu, 07 Jan 2010 01:55:42 +0000

Glad you wrote about it because I often feel cranky and ungrateful yet the kidlet is so wonderful.

For example, she has always been a crappy sleeper. Tonight our battle included one visit when I changed her PJs to a lighter set because I thought she might be too hot- she said, “The baby is happy.” I said, “Why?” She said, “Because she loves you and you take care of her.” Twenty minutes later after continued fussing and on another visit I said, “Fine! I’ll sit in your room for 1 minute and then I’m leaving.” She started to squawk I said, “WHAT is the problem. I’m right here. Go to sleep!”

sigh. not one of my finer moments. it’s not easy is it? when it’s all said and done, i just hope the total good moments outnumber and outweigh the not so good. all we can do is try.

By: Dee

Dee — Sat, 28 Nov 2009 00:00:00 +0000

Li,Always remember something my Mom told me about kids…as long as you approach raising them with love in your heart, and values and respect in theirs, both you and they will be fine.

By: teendoc

teendoc — Thu, 26 Nov 2009 02:05:25 +0000

Guess I’ve been feeling like I’ve been more stressed than patient for the majority of the past year. Maybe I’m just looking at myself through a negative filter, but I get so worried about being crappy mom. But she is the bestest ever.

By: teendoc

teendoc — Thu, 26 Nov 2009 02:03:47 +0000

Thank you. I still feel craptastic though. Afraid I am slipping up and becoming my Evil Mother.

Oooh, Alex, eating the glasses would not have been good.

By: Liana

Liana — Wed, 25 Nov 2009 00:00:00 +0000

Thanks, Heidi. It's so hard when I don't have examples of parenting styles that resonate with me to rely on. My mother was nuts. My friends are much more loose, so I feel like I'm flying blind. And then add to it my mood instability since hitting this early menopause and I don't know whether I'm coming or going at times.But last night we went out for dinner, just the two of us, and had an absolutely wonderful time. She hugged me and said, I love you Mommy" and I wanted to fly to the moon.

By: spyderkl

spyderkl — Thu, 19 Nov 2009 20:50:32 +0000

What Deathstar just said. No mum can be sweetness and light all the time, and it sounded like you were stretched to your limit that day. Take a deep breath and think about all the times you’ve been an incredibly patient, loving mother to Z.

You’re both going to have rotten days and good days. I’m happy for you both that it turned out to be a good day after all.
.-= spyderkl´s last blog ..A Most Inoffensive Billboard =-.

By: Aunt Becky

Aunt Becky — Thu, 19 Nov 2009 20:40:22 +0000

That is a great story. Seriously a great story. She’s such a good little girl and you know what? I’ve done the SAME THING.

At 2 they just don’t get cause and effect and man it’s draining sometimes. I can’t believe she was so good while you got glasses. She reminds me of Ben. Alex would have been eating the glasses.
.-= Aunt Becky´s last blog ..Bright Lights, Big Failure =-.

By: teendoc

teendoc — Thu, 19 Nov 2009 18:02:50 +0000

Every now and again, a mom has a bad day, where your nerves are just frayed and your halo slips. You don’t have to be perfect.

But being hard on myself is my best hobby!

Seriously, though, I guess I feel as though my halo has been slipping a good bit as I’ve been adjusting hormonally to menopause or having a worsening of my mood symptoms or whatever the heck it is. I want to feel a little less frazzled and reactive in general, yet that has proven to be a difficult task. But I’m pushing through.

By the way, I’m glad to hear the naughty corner works! Frankly, when I was a kid, my options were do as I say or you get a slap. I like your way better!

We might have been raised by the same parents! But hubby and I wanted to break that script without going all laissez-faire. That 1-2-3 Magic approach works pretty well. Not perfectly, though nothing is, but at least the naughty corner has a built in plan to deal with escalation if she has one of her off the chain days. The slap or “smack you” approach does not really deal with escalation very well.

By: deathstar

deathstar — Thu, 19 Nov 2009 15:57:19 +0000

You're being way too hard on yourself. Every now and again, a mom has a bad day, where your nerves are just frayed and your halo slips. You don't have to be perfect. Zara survived it quite nicely and made out with ice cream and a way to melt your heart at the same time. By the way, I'm glad to hear the naughty corner works! Frankly, when I was a kid, my options were do as I say or you get a slap. I like your way better! .-= deathstar´s last blog ..Can we change the subject PLEASE?!!!! =-.

By: Friendly's

Friendly's — Thu, 19 Nov 2009 01:00:56 +0000

What a great story!! So sweet! Glad Zara got her Friendly’s!

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